In response to the “Mr. Perlman orchestrating the romance post” I think the father’s actions pair really well with his final monologue. By the time they’re out looking at the sculpture, he has taken notice of something special between them. He is afraid they will make the same mistake he did and miss out on something truly beautiful. He doesn’t push them, he just gives them a little more time together, something he and the audience are so keenly aware they don’t have enough of.

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(cont).Those are just all my own private opinions though and I can understand how it could make others uncomfortable. (Sorry for going on anon btw, the cmbyn tag is scary sometimes).

That’s totally fine anon, I’m so glad you shared your thoughts! I completely agree, I don’t think Mr. Perlman can be accused of manipulating the situation in any way. This is what his son wanted, this is what Oliver wanted and by doing this he is passively showing his acceptance. He knows more than Elio at this moment, that this is what they need and this is what will make them happy. Elio and Oliver fell in love and Mr. Perlman let them, that’s all. 

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it seems like there are people out there who desperately try to find someone to blame for manipulating elio because they just won’t acknowledge that a seventeen year-old knows what he wants and goes after it?!