Love, Simon, Moonlight, OR Call Me By Your Name?

asbehsam:

AKA I adore Love, Simon and Call Me By Your name (both their books and movies) so much, so please stop comparing them and spreading hate?

I’ve been going through tumblr and Instagram lately and I’m
seeing a lot of negative msgs in Call Me By Your Name tag, Love Simon tag,
and Moonlight to some extend, just spreading a lot of hatred out there in the name of “expressing opinion”. (I love how haters never forget to tag the thing they hate to make sure they hurt the  fans of that thing–you wanna search for something you love? here you are, looking at the hate posts someone felt entitled to show you.) 

Allow me to tell you that these three movies have absolutely
nothing to do with each other except with the same sex couple and if you think
that’s a good reason for comparing them you are going a wrooooong way in
supporting same sex couples. Because you are labeling these movies as different romance
movies from straight romance movies.

First, you need to know

Love, Simon is a beautiful, romantic, funny and necessary
story of a gay boy who struggles with his secret and sexual identity and the idea of
losing everyone upon coming

out, and wants to stand up to anyone who wants to give him shit for it, while craving for that huge romance he knows
he’s destined for; it’s a YOUNG ADULT COMEDY ROMANCE TAKING PLACE IN THE US
Call Me By Your Name is an unabashed story of first love, and it’s the story of romantic
melancholy and a sense of loss as a crucial element of maturation, alongside
erotic exploration, fulfillment, and finding happiness  with
the unlikely person; it’s the story of a bisexual boy who discovers and
embraces his bisexuality; it’s an ADULT ROMANCE DRAMA TAKING
PLACE IN ITALY
Moonlight is about a person of color who lives in a time
that neither his sexuality nor the color of his skin is accepted (oh, Chiron, I wish I could tell you things are different in 2018…), and he
struggles with poverty and abuse and still looks for a way to be the good
person that he is without going down to the others’ level. IT’S NOT EVEN A ROMANCE.
It’s an ADULT DRAMA TAKING PLACE IN THE US and it’s a whole different story that is crucial and should be praised and treasured.

The important things you have GOT to understand:

THE US (OR ANY OTHER COUNTRY) IS
NOT THE STANDARD OF THE WORLD. Your culture, your laws, your parenting, etc,
does not have to apply to the rest of the world and it just doesn’t. Believe it or not there are
other people living OUTSIDE your countries, with their own culture and their
own laws. If, for example, in Italy the age of consent is 14, there is a good
reason for that: kids become adults at that age, are able to make their own
decisions and take responsibility for them, so they are given that choice. If
the age of consent is 13 in Japan, you can’t go around calling them creepy,
because that would make you an asshole who only wants your own culture and laws
for everyone else in the entire world.

Elio is an ADULT BISEXUAL–that is the culture he grew up in. He’s
expected to be an adult, make decisions for himself, and take responsibility
for them.

“Okay, but the age difference is seven years omg”
you say? 

To all of you who go around shouting about normalizing same sex
couples and hating on others in the name of defending the LGBT community, then
go around AWWWing at Richard Gere and Winona Ryder’s romance in Autumn in New
York (22 years age difference), how come the age gap between Baby and Johnny
didn’t have you all going around spreading hate? Dirty Dancing’s Baby is 17 and
hooks up with a man much older than herself who is also her mentor, IN THE US,
and Dirty Dancing is considered a classic romance.

Because? Ding! Ding! Right! Because they are straight. 🙂

HEALTHY relationship has standards, and the standards are not our OPINION–they are general, important standards like consent, the lack of manipulation or control (while I’m giggling allow me to tell you that Elio has MUCH more control over this relationship that Oliver does), support and respect, and they all exist in Call Me By Your Name (the age gap you say? Read above three times. ‘Elio is a teenager so he’s not an adult’? Read above and below five times.) 

If you think Oliver has more power so it’s not balanced (some even say it’s because Armie Hammer is tall, to which I can only laugh and say ARE YOU SERIOUS?), you really should know that Elio might be younger, but he beats Oliver in a lot of things and Oliver, believe it or not, is actually submissive and very vulnerable in a lot of scenes of the movie (even more than the book)–this American man with homophobic parents and he’s been told all his life that he has to be all MACHOOO (which reminds me of Moonlight bUT WE ARE NOT COMPARING THEM), and seeing the way people are treating this character and this movie, he has every right to be on his guards… and then he learns that he can be who he is without feeling ashamed. 

Oh, Oliver, I wish I could tell you things are different in 2018.

So the relationship is balanced. Trust me. 

Now you go on and send me and other fans msgs about the age
gap between Oliver and Elio or Armie Hammer (31) and Timothee Chalamet (22) (have I mentioned the 27 years
age gap between Harrison Ford and Anne Heche while filming Six Days, Seven
Nights? Or Liam Neeson and Olivia Wilde’s age gap of 32 years filming Third Person? Is
it okay? NO. How is CMBYN okay? Read above and below twice), and do not take one second
to think and to understand that an abusive/predatory relationship is about the lack of consent, and consent has everything to do with the AGE OF CONSENT and the age
of consent has everything to do with the culture of countries and how people  have been raised to be able to take responsibility in certain age (”omg, the age of consent doesn’t legalize teenage x adult relationship” um, the age of consent doesn’t say ‘you are only allowed to date people your age’, it says you are allowed to date other people above the age of consent, because it considers you an adult once you pass it), and never
for a second think of the fact that by going around comparing a beautiful
movie like Love, Simon with a beautiful movie like Call Me By Your Name

1. you are not giving more value to Love, Simon. Actually, the exact
   opposite, if you have to bash something and bring it down to get something up,
   you are hurting your own fandom and you are undervaluing that thing that you
   love
2. you spread hatred that (“but it was just a joke, I didn’t mean it” THEN STOP.), you are hurting the hard working, amazing actors
   like Armie Hammer, who is getting so much hate and insult for his art–you are
   providing an atmosphere where a man and his family are being bullied and
   verbally abused for HIS JOB AND HIS ART (which begs the question: “WTF?”)
3. you are actually making people who love Call Me By Your Name
   hate Love, Simon without even watching the movie (just like how you didn’t
   watch CMBYN and just hated on it. hurts, right? “I love watched CMBYN and I don’t like it” IT IS TOTALLY FINE AND NOBODY NOBODY IS ALLOWED TO MAKE YOU LOVE SOMETHING but just as much as NOBODY HAS THE RIGHT TO MAKE YOU HATE SOMETHING–don’t like it? totally fine, just don’t spared hate. see? so simple. )
4. you are making other fandoms uncomfortable and hurting their
   feelings. You are making fun of the people who relate to the characters of this movie, (whispers) and trust me they are so many
5. You are spending time and effort to spread HATRED FOR CMBYN
   instead of spreading LOVE FOR LOVE, SIMON which are NOT the same and can NOT be
   the same

 so, all that said, CALL ME BY YOUR NAME, LOVE, SIMON AND MOONLIGHT ARE
BEAUTIFUL AND IMPORTANT MOVIES WITH FANS AND ACTORS WHO DESERVE LOVE AND
RESPECT.

 Stop. Spreading. Hate. It. Does. Nothing. NOTHING. Good.

~Aty out.

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